It’s Possible, For Me

To start with, my current stats (dating back to my arrival in Lviv in mid-August of 2025):

Approaches: 307

Telegram: 24

IG: 67

SMS: 1

LinkedIn: 1

i-Dates: 1

1st Dates (includes 1 tinder date): 12

2nd Dates: 6

3rd Dates: 3

And there was one girl who I had a total of 8 dates with.

So all together, I had 27 dates.

Bouncebacks: 3 (Includes one girl who I had back twice)

Kiss close: 1

Lays: 0

Analysis

I also started tracking an additional statistic on October 15, which was the number of girls who stopped to have a conversation. Of the 121 approaches I’ve done since then, 65 (~54%) stopped to have a conversation. Of the 65 who stopped, 36 (~55%) gave contact details. So roughly half the girls I approach stop to talk, and of those half give their contact details, and of those 5 (~14%) came out on first dates. So this tells me I need to approach about 24 girls to get a date.

I actually don’t think my stats are “bad” ratio wise, it’s just I’m not getting laid. I should also note that I’m not stat padding. In fact, Brooding Sea told me I should downward adjust the quality of women I approach on average just to get more reps on dates and reference experiences. I’ve come to two major realizations over the last 4-5 months since being in Lviv:

1. I NEED TO ESCALATE
2. Focus first on getting laid with a girl, THEN focus on potentially making her my girlfriend

As I’ve discussed at length with Brooding Sea, escalation is clearly the leak in my funnel. I’ve had some very, very hot girls on dates. Like at least 5 to 6 girls who are the epitomie of younger, hotter, tighter, absolutely sizzling hot girls in their late teens and early 20s. I have to remind myself that they wouldn’t be coming out on these dates if I didn’t clear their lower threshhold for fuckability, so there’s that silver lining.

One of my persistent insecurities is that I’m too old (36) to be doing this shit with women in the prime age cohort, and while yes, I do get age rejections, there’s still ample opportunity. I just need to act URGENTLY with CONSISTENCY. My goal has been to do 5 sets a day, but I know I’ve fallen significantly short of that goal. Sometimes the streets provide that volume, sometimes they don’t and sometimes I just weasel (way more often than I should) and don’t take the opportunities the street gives. In particular, I struggle to approach when I’m not “doing daygame” in a pre-scheduled session.

The fact is, I know it’s possible to get laid with these girls in the prime age cohort or I wouldn’t have gotten as many dates as I have. The problem arises in the sense that I simply have done a shit job of escalating. I haven’t been nearly as bold or persistent with it as I need to be. These girls are not going to just fall over backwards in my bed with their legs in the air. I have to go and make it happen or it’s not going to happen at all.

To add to that, I need to adjust my macro strategy from “getting a hot white girlfriend” to first and foremost breaking my years-long dry spell and focus on getting laid. That is, after all, the basic point of even doing daygame. I’ve also come to the obvious realization that in many cases, it’s easier to have casual sex with a girl than it is to position yourself as her boyfriend because she has a longer checklist of needs and wants for a boyfriend than she has for a casual sex partner.

What’s more, I’ve found there’s just a sense of tension in the air and emotional distance prior to the sex happening, so my goal is to get that out of the way ASAP with a girl and then decide if she’s worth pursuing as girlfriend material AFTER that. And not to give away my commitment too easily by verbalizing to the girl first that I’m looking for a long term relationship. I’ve already lost a lead the hard way doing that.

Moving Foward

I decided to go home for the holidays and took a few days break in Mexico for some sunshine and good food on my way home. It was a much needed break from the cold and darkness of Lviv winter. I actually hate winter and felt a strong urge to go back to Dubai or somewhere in Asia for a few months and return to Lviv in the spring. However, after much thought and deliberation, I decided to go back to Lviv. I started with my end goal in mind (break dry spell with hot white girl who may or may not become my girlfriend), and thought ok, what best serves that goal? Sure, I’ll have to suffer through the winter weather and eletricity cuts, but sometimes sacrifices need to be made, and I simply don’t have the time to waste fucking around in some warm weather locale only to return to Lviv with zero momentum built in the spring.

Worried about “burning” Lviv

I still have the irrational fear that I’m going to “burn” Lviv and run out of hot girls to approach in the city. I know this is a crazy notion because girls come and go from the city all the time, the univeristy population turns over 50% per year, and the number of sets I’ve done thus far (307) is a drop in the bucket of what is likely to be the total statistical amount of hot girls in the prime age cohort (18-24) in a city of approximately 700k. Even if this does become a problem, which I doubt, I have to remind myself that worst case scenario I can always daygame in nearby third tier cities in western Ukraine such as Ivano-Frankivsk, Chernivsti, Lutsk, Rivne, etc. Ukraine is lacking some things, but hot girls is not one of them, even during wartime. From a rational perspective, my bigger concern should be not being consistent enough with my approaching to keep my lead pipeline full.

Ukrainian Language Classes

I came to Lviv knowing only Russian after studying it for about 4 years and it’s definately better than not knowing Russian at all to communicate with girls who speak little to no English, which I’d estimate to be around 30-40% of the girls I approach. Still, they almost always reply in Ukrainian, and so I’ve been meeting with a Ukrainian tutor about 3 times a week for 3 months. I’ve fallen off the schedule a bit with my recent travel, but I’m still studying on my own at least an hour everyday, focusing mainly on expanding my vocabulary as fast as possible. Anki has been especially good for this. I’m also planning to take an online intensive Ukrainian language course offered through one of the univerisities here that lasts about 4 months, meeting twice a week for 4 hours. I just want to get competent speaking this language as fast as possible.

Noteworthy Girls

I won’t go into detail on every date I had since I last posted, but there’s a few things I want to highlight:

I-date that almost resulted in SDL with hot 20 year old.

This was a surreal experience that occurred about 2 months ago. I met the girl early on a Sunday afternoon near the Opera House. She had a nice plump ass in black yoga pants, a tight waist and pretty face. Easily an 8. Right before I was about to approach, some girl doing street interviews stopped me to ask my opinion on different pictures showing various levels of women’s lip filler and which I preferred. This almost caused me to lose track of the girl, because in the ~1-2 minutes that took, I coudn’t see where she was. I just picked what I thought was her most likely direction of travel, turned the corner and lo and behold I was able to track her down.

What really surprised me was that SHE suggested the i-date, not me. That tells me I need to get better at spotting these opportunities. Well, I took her up on the offer and we had a coffe off the main square. I then took her for a walk in the park next to Ivan Franko university and sat with her on a park bench, which was a mistake because it’s very difficult to escalate in a public park or create a seductive atmosphere in this setting.

To my credit, I recognized the energy flagging and bounced her to my go-to bar, whose second floor has a nice couch with a good degree of privacy. Of note, I commented on how nice her ass looked and she told me to tell her something different because guys comment on her ass all the time (it was obviously her most sexy feature, impossible not to notice and she knew it based on the way she dressed). This was a good learning experience for me going forward not to make the same comments that all the other guys are likely to make.

At the bar, she ordered a whiskey, good sign. I don’t drink, so I ordered a non-alocholic wine, which she gave me some shit about. The bartender, who has seen me bring multiple girls to this venue, also made a side comment alluding to this when he brought us our drinks. I made a mental note of it and have since tried to build more rapport with him by chatting with him in the bar before my dates so he won’t cockblock me. This venue is by far my favorite date venue in the city.

On the couch, this girl was curled up next to me with her head on my shoulder. It very much felt like game-on. Honestly, I can’t remember if I took her to dinner at an Italian restaurant before or after the bar (this was 2 months ago already), but we had dinner at the Italian restaurant, and I tried to rush through that part as fast as possible because it wasn’t really conducive to seduction. At the restaurant, I was sitting at a right angle to her, and I would reach my hand under the table to feel her legs, which she playfully admonished me for, claiming I had “long arms.” This girl spoke no English so I was speaking mostly Russian while she spoke Ukrainian.

I invited her back to mine, which she refused. Brooding Sea told me not to do this because the answer is always no. Instead, the optimal strategy is just to say let’s go, and then start leading her back to your place. If she asks where you’re going, say “it’s a surprise.” If she presses for an answer, then tell her we are just going to mine for 30 minutes to have some tea and then I’ll get her a taxi home. One of my key weaknesses is that I’ve been trying to get girls home without “warming the engine” first through escalation. Getting a girl back home who you haven’t escalated is like trying to jump start a cold car.

Well this girl eventually agreed to going back to mine, with the plausible deniability that she was just “going to use the bathroom.” The thing was, I wasn’t expecting any company, this encounter resulting from an early afternoon i-date, so my place was dirty, including my bathroom. While I was cleaning my bathroom, she was waiting in my apartment outside the bathroom door. This took me longer than it should have (about 10 minutes), and then she used the bathroom. When she came out, I suggested watching a movie, which she declined.

With the benefit of hindsight and having analyzed what happened with Brooding Sea, I realize I should have 1. kept my apartment clean and smelling good (I later noticed she had cracked a window in my apartment while she was waiting) and 2. assumed she was going to stay by moving straight away to put the kettle on and asking her which tea she wanted rather than asking her to watch a movie, which all girls know is code for fucking.

I also made the mistake of assuming that I would see this girl again and would be able to get her out again. Wrong, wrong, wrong. First off, she was just visiting Lviv and as I’ve come to realize, the i-date bubble pops fast once the girl leaves your presence. She responded to some of my subsequent texts for about a day, but then fell off within about 36 hours afterwards and I was not able to get her out again. Nonetheless, it was a great reference experience not only for what’s possible, but what’s possible for me.

I can’t stress enough that this girl was the epitome of younger, hotter, tighter and sex was definately on the table the same day I met her. During the first part of the i-date at the cafe, I specifically remember thinking this girl is just interested in having a social chat, no way is she actually thinking about getting fucked. But in retrospect, I KNOW it was a possibility had I handled it better, especially once back at the apartment.

Banana Girl (girl I had 8 dates with):

Looking back at my previous posts, I see where I wrote this girl off a few times before. As of now, with the dust settled, I had 8 dates in total with her, even getting her back to my apartment a second time with another back massage and this time massaing her ass and having a make-out with tongue. I had a boner almost instantaneously when we were making out. Hot young women can have that effect on you.

The problem is that she was just a massive pain in the ass to deal with, especially over text, and I eventually decided to simply cut my losses. I probably could have eked a few more dates with her, but I honestly don’t think it was ever going to end in sex. She was a virgin (so she claims), and looking back, I think it probably just wasn’t in the cards for me to fuck her presenting myself as a boyfriend option, given the large age gap.

Going forward, for girls in the late teens, early 20s age range, I think my best chance of getting laid is setting an R select adventure sex frame. That’s not to say I’m ruling out the K strategy, especially for virgin girls, but I absolutely have to keep my pipeline full so I don’t come across as desparate and keep leads at varying stages of development. With this girl, I took my foot off the gas with approaching because I was worried she would see me in-set. Yes, this was paranoid, but not entirely unfounded as I did run into her twice by happenstance over the course of a few months. Still, I just have to do the approaches regardless of that risk because the alternative of a dry pipeline (and dry dick) is worse.

Last 3 Dates In December

Most recently, I had three dates in three days in the first part of December. The first date was with a girl who honestly could have passed for a leftist American career woman if I hadn’t known better. Our date went badly, which in large part was due to me being willing to discuss politics with her and that quickly soured the vibe. I didn’t text her after the date, and frankly, I don’t think she wanted to hear from me either.

The other was a second date with a 30 year old IT worker who I talked to for almost 3 hours (too long, in retrospect) over drinks (again, ordering a non-alcoholic “jack and coke” while she had a cocktail). The conversation flowed easily, and I think she was DTF depsite having sent me a text after the first date saying she was not interested in anything romantic.

As usual, look at what she does (come on date with man she barely knows to have drinks one on one) vs what she says. I didn’t invite her home, mainly because I lost the desire to fuck her when she took her coat off and I was able to see for the first time all the tattoos she had, almost a tattoo sleeve on one arm. Since then, I’ve decided I’m still going to pursue this lead becaue I think she is still interested (she texted me while I was back home in the US for the holidays). I just had to get clear on what I wanted from her, which at this point is just casual sex, not a relationship. I suppose I’m the same way as the girls are in the sense that I have a shorter list of requirements for a girlfriend than I have for a casual sex partner.

Lastly, I went on two dates with a mid 20s dance instructor girl. The mid 20s age range is probably my most realistic target demographic for getting a girlfriend at this stage in my life. With that in mind, I made my desire for a relationship overt to this girl, which was a mistake in hindsight. The second date was us going for dinner and a movie, and I told her my intentions while we waited in the theater lobby for the movie to start. It seemed like she agreed in the moment, but looking back, I think that was just her being conflict avoidant and I’m certain I lowered my perceived value in her eyes by being so willing to give up my commitment.

It reminds me of the cat string theory – the cat is fixated by the string as long as you keep dancing it in front of the cat’s field of view. It only loses interest once you drop the sting in front of it. It seemed to be the same way with the prospect of a committed relationship with this girl.

During the movie, I tried to escalate by reaching across the arm divider in the movie to caress her hand, which she took (actually, I’m not sure how she could have rejected this short of saying don’t do it), but it felt awkward. After the date, she said she had a good time over text, but a few days later when I invited her out again, she said we couldn’t meet again. She didn’t give a reason, and I didn’t ask because I thought I already knew and she was unlikely to give me the truth regardless.

Also, even before she said we couldn’t meet again, I was already losing some enthusiasm for her being my girlfriend because she has short hair. After some reflection, I’ve created a list of must-have qualities in a girlfriend, and one of them is long hair (others include no kids, never married, white, little to no tattoos, no smoking and not fat).

Street Approach and Date Game

I recorded some of my street approaches and dates for Brooding Sea, and he provided feedback on what he heard. Suffice it to say, there is major room for improvement in many areas, but the most urgent, and what I think is the lowest hanging fruit, is improving my escalation.

Conclusion

There were other noteworthy happenings (e.g. model girl returning to Dubai that agreed to meet the night before she left before flaking and a set that screamed SDL opportunity based on the sexual tension in set that I didn’t act on), but I think this covers the major highlights.

So where do I go from here? The easy answer would be to fuck off to a place like Dubai or Vietnam for the winter and focus on business before returning to Lviv in the spring. But damnit, getting laid with one of these girls and getting a hot white girlfriend is something I NEED, not something I want. If that means I have to live in darkness and cold, perhaps without electricity, when I could be in warmth and sun, than so be it. My desire for sex and a relationship has never been greater than it is now, especially now that I’ve almost tipped the chalice to my lips.

With that in mind, I’ll be back in Lviv by mid-January, and I just have to do whatever it takes, which means I need to get back in the saddle, commit myself to being consistent, continue to analyze what I’m doing and adjust accordingly. The results will come, I know they will.

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